Have Passion. Will Teach.

molls:

I found out today from some dudes that I work with that when a dude texts you, “What are you doing?” that he doesn’t actually want to know what you’re doing and that he’s trying to have sex with you.

I don’t know if you knew about this or not, but I had no idea. I thought that, when dudes texted…

This is truth.

I tell my students this all the time.  And also that when a guy says, “Let’s hang out,” it means 1) This isn’t a date, 2) I’m not planning anything special, 3)I’m expecting you to put out, and 4)I won’t feel obligated to call you.

I don’t talk to my students about dating very often, but I do try to get them thinking about and talking about the way that things like Facebook and texting are changing their social lives.  There is a sense of immediacy that takes all the surprise, planning and work out of dating.  Gone are the days of not taking a phone call because a young lady is “washing her hair”.  Chances are she just checked in to Boredtowne, Couchville on Facebook.  Everyone now knows that she is bored and doing nothing.  Cue the “What are you doing?” and “Let’s hang out” texts.